Pregnant, you promised yourself to always be flirtatious the day baby pointed his cute little nose. Yes, but here it is, reality has quickly caught up with you... How to remain a fulfilled woman on a daily basis, in her relationship, in family and at work ? Mom's real life is full of nuances. It's made up of joys, love, but also unexpected, tired, and frustrating. Rest assured, you're not alone in experiencing it!

For you, dear "Overwhelmed Mom", here are our best tips not to sacrifice your beauty ritual. Our goal ? Help you always feel pretty, balanced, comfortable in your own skin.

Becoming a mother and remaining a beautiful woman is possible !

You thought you could handle the casual chic style like influencers. To you the shiny hair, the radiant complexion, the smile béa on the lips, the line found! The height of happiness : you proudly carry your newborn in your arms and your man is conquered, all in a perfectly ordered trendy interior.

A few weeks later, the finding is final. The hair in a crab claw bun, the hollowed out dark circles and the dull look, a shapeless t-shirt as a combat outfit... Your baby never sleeps and your husband hides under an old pilled plaid. You wonder when the plan failed.

Awareness : a difficult passage, but necessary to organize yourself

Yet you had everything planned. You thought your program was infallible... Except for one detail. You didn't know your baby. And you didn't know which parents you were going to be. In reality, to become a mother is to discover a part of oneself that one did not suspect.

Generally, we spend her pregnancy dreaming, imagining her future life as a mother. For a first child, we project ourselves from the experiences of others. We consult: our mother or sister, our friends, co-workers, or even strangers in forums on the web. We create a virtual puzzle. And if you wait for your second little one, you are convinced that you can manage. After all, now we know ! But in reality, the discovery of your new life really happens when baby comes into the world.

Today, you struggle to take a simple shower in more than 3 minutes. Your nights are like micronaps. Your days are real challenges worthy of intensive preparation for the Olympics. So apply a small facial or worse, makeup seems definitely out of reach. But we want to reassure you, solutions exist. Being a mother is not necessarily synonymous with letting go or unavoidable relaxation on the beauty and well-being side.

Discover and integrate your new priorities into your daily life

Many mothers have the painful experience of feeling overwhelmed; they want to be perfect and carry out their multiple roles at the same time : wife, stay-at-home or employee, entrepreneur. The feeling of not being able to do it can discourage the most motivated and dapper of the "Oya"! It will take time to find your feet. Nothing is fixed : with each birth, a new adjustment is necessary. The loss of landmarks leads to instability that you did not necessarily foresee.

You try to respond, flawlessly, to the multiple requests of your toddlers,  day and night. You also want to stay tuned to the older one or more. Your home must remain spotless. Your perfect work is always on time. Result: you are exhausted!

This can help create a deep sense of discouragement, sadness, and inner emptiness. You totally forget yourself. However, remember this precious advice : a woman who listens to herself and gives herself time, without feeling guilty, is deeply fulfilled. She can then make herself fully available for everything else.

Your priorities have changed. The time you used to take only for yourself before must now be divided between your needs and those of your offspring. Like any change, this upheaval in habits is complex to integrate, or even to accept. It cannot be done in a snap of the fingers.

It's a new life to organize. And caught up in the whirlwind of obligations and injunctions, you can quickly feel overwhelmed. So yes, you certainly have less time than before to take care of yourself. It is a reality. Fortunately, there are a few tricks to offer you effective beauty rituals, even in express mode.

How to optimize your beauty routine as a mom in a hurry?

Get to basics to save time in your skincare routine

The first recommendation to save time on a daily basis is to reduce the content of your beauty vanity. In skincare, as in makeup, it is useless to save at all costs unsuitable products or that you no longer like. Sorting is necessary. This will help you preserve your energy. Instead, you will mobilize your forces to set up your new organization.

Why do you keep this cream started for more than a year? Why do you keep this care that, however, did not convince you? The answer is certainly " just in case ", or " you never know" or " it cost so much !" . By deciding to reduce your products to what is strictly necessary, you easily simplify your daily life.

We recommend that you precisely target the needs of your skin. By getting to the point, you set yourself a concrete goal. In'Oya offers you a detailed diagnosis online or by phone, enjoy it! Once established, we set up your personalized care protocol. Through follow-up, we encourage you to take time for yourself. By accompanying you, we help motivate you to give you these precious moments.

Your beauty vanity will usually be composed of the essential treatments:

• gentle cleanser
• face-body scrub
• treating mask
• protective day cream adapted to your skin type
• regenerating night care
• moisturizing milk for the body

And depending on the specific needs identified, ultra-targeted care can complete these essentials. You will add occasionally: an anti-stain serum, an imperfection corrector, sun protection, etc.

Review the contents of the makeup bag for more efficiency

On the makeup side, the same return to the fundamentals is beneficial. Rigorously inspect the contents of your kit : do you really use all these products ? A natural and good look is usually the best option on a daily basis. Stay-at-home mom or rather active woman, you can treat yourself to an effective beauty in less than 5 minutes each morning. To find out how to achieve this, check out our nude makeup tutorial.

Of course, you can keep a few more flashy shades or sophisticated products for special occasions. Even if outings and parties are rarer, they will find their place at some point. You will then appreciate these more sustained shades.

If at the time of sorting, you strongly doubt in front of a shadow with an unlikely color or an old lipstick : slice ! Keep only those products that you are satisfied with and enjoy using.

Finally, take advantage of this sorting to make you a first aid kit for mornings in a hurry, to slip into the bag. It will be composed according to your desires of some magical products.  Generally, we find the famous dry shampoo, refreshing wipes, a light corrector or a bb cream, a stick good look 2-in-1 (blush / eye shadow), a mini mascara and a colorful lip balm. Remember to bring an energizing perfume in small format, very pleasant to have on hand in case of unforeseen events!

How to release the mental load? Here are the tips from the moms of the In'oya team

The catch is to think that you will take care of yourself when you have time. You will, in fact, never have time. It's up to you to take it ! The weight of the mental load is sometimes so heavy that you don't know how to deal with it. Fortunately, like all supermarries, you will develop unsuspected qualities : anticipation, simplification and organization.

To help you in this challenge, we interviewed the mothers of the In'Oya team! Here are their best tips for overwhelmed moms organized to have more time each day:

• Mélanie, Brand Manager – Reunion Island:

With the dad, we take care of the children alternately every morning. I plan as much as possible the day before. We take stock of the schedule of the children of the next day. Do they have a planned sporting activity? A special course at school?  

Everything necessary is provided in the evening: clothes and accessories, the breakfast table. And on D-Day, I wake up and prepare before the children wake up. I orchestrate the smooth running of their toilet : starting the heating, toothbrush, clean towel, etc. Finally, I always wake the children enough time before departure not to squeeze them and start the day in peace.

• Laila, Co-founder and Marketing & Sales Director

I cook my baby's meals, Nowam, for 2 or 3 days. I freeze them in conservation pots. So, every morning, I slip one into the insulated bag for lunch taken at the nanny's house.

I also optimize my general organization by scheduling appointments at lunchtime. Sometimes, I even do shopping between noon and two, at the end of the week, because in the evening it is impossible ! On the chore side, I naturally free myself from ironing: I avoid choosing clothes that wrinkle for the children. 

The story of the evening is no longer systematic for Aliya : a kiss and a big hug, she falls asleep without difficulty. I don't feel guilty anymore because I don't tell a story every night. What they need is our presence, our affection, so it is better a moment of sweetness given with sincerity, than a sloppy story because we are too exhausted !

• Karen, Sales Manager

I have the ability to be multi-tasking : I answer an email while preparing dinner, then I start a machine... All while taking care of my daughter!

My "cocooning" moment is usually on Friday night, I try to take the time for my skincare ritual. Why friday? Generally my blow dry no longer holds too much in place... So a hair care is necessary in the wake.   

Every day, I dedicate 20 minutes of cleaning for each room to avoid spending 2 hours on weekends.

I also got into the habit of playing sports with my son Jamal, 4 and a half years old. It's a real pleasure to share these moments together. He loves to do Yoga, it is a quiet activity, pleasant to insert between noisier occupations! We do a lot of gym exercises: toad positions, the elevator, I carry it on my back to act as a "weight".

Finally, I do not hesitate to ask my family members to take over when I feel tired.

To conclude, we want to remind you why it's so important to take care of yourself, especially when you're a mom. You are an example to your child. To teach him from an early age to listen to himself is to give him the power to respect himself, no matter what. It is telling him to be his best friend, in all circumstances. It is to explain to him that one is not selfish because one thinks of oneself. Finally, you send him this message: when you have taken good care of yourself, you are full of energy and love for others !

And you, what are your tips as super-moms? Share them with our community in the comments !